All of This: A Memoir of Death and Desire

All of This: A Memoir of Death and Desire

by Rebecca Woolf
All of This: A Memoir of Death and Desire

All of This: A Memoir of Death and Desire

by Rebecca Woolf


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“Beautifully written, complex, provocative, painful, unforgettable memoir.”—ROXANE GAY

“Wonderfully lyrical and uncomfortably honest in a way that is so rare, yet so needed.”—JENNY LAWSON

“Disturbing and profound, this intimate book also reveals the sometimes-labyrinthine nature of the bonds that unite people in love...A provocative and memorable work.”—Kirkus Reviews

After years of struggling in a tumultuous marriage, writer Rebecca Woolf was finally ready to leave her husband. Two weeks after telling him she wanted a divorce, he was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer. Four months later, at the age of forty-four, he died.

In All of This, Woolf chronicles the months before her husband’s death—and her rebirth after he was gone. With rigorous honesty and incredible awareness, she reflects on the end of her marriage: how her husband’s illness finally gave her the space to make peace with his humanity and her own.

Stunning, compelling, and brilliantly nuanced, All of This is one woman’s story of embracing the complexities of grief without shame—as a mother, a widow, and a sexual being—and emerging on the other side of a relationship with gratitude and relief.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780063052673
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 08/16/2022
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 91,874
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.30(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

REBECCA WOOLF has worked as a freelance writer since age 16 when she became a leading contributor to the hit 90s book series, Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul and its subsequent Teen Love Series books. Since then, Woolf has contributed to numerous publications, websites and anthologies, most notably her own award-winning personal blog, Girl’s Gone Child, which attracted millions of unique visitors worldwide. As well as launching her own successful blog, Woolf has contributed dozens of personal essays to publications both on and offline including Refinery29, Huffington Post, Parenting, and Romper and in 2012 hosted Childstyle, a web series on She has appeared on CNN and NPR and has been featured in The New York Times, Time Magazine and New York Mag. She lives in Los Angeles with her son and three daughters. 

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Part 1

Chapter 1 Cancer Season 7

Chapter 2 Broken News 15

Chapter 3 Hurrycanes 32

Chapter 4 In Sickness and in Health 47

Chapter 5 Future Exes 58

Chapter 6 Punchlines 64

Chapter 7 Sleep Talking 78

Chapter 8 The Last Sunset 87

Part 2

Chapter 9 Green 103

Chapter 10 Still Life 104

Chapter 11 Ash and Bone 113

Chapter 12 Coastlines 123

Chapter 13 La Petite Mort 132

Chapter 14 Some Other Beginnings End 144

Chapter 15 My Bloody Valentine 149

Chapter 16 First Dates 158

Chapter 17 The Tenderness of One-Night Stands 165

Chapter 18 Something Casual 179

Part 3

Chapter 19 Witches 193

Chapter 20 Sirens 200

Chapter 21 Everyone Is a Storm / April 2020 207

Chapter 22 Bylines 213

Chapter 23 Birthdays 222

Afterword 231

Acknowledgments 235

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