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How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing

How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing

by KC Davis LPC
How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing

How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing

by KC Davis LPC


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This revolutionary approach to cleaning and organizing helps free you from feeling ashamed or overwhelmed by a messy home.

If you’re struggling to stay on top of your to-do list, you probably have a good reason: anxiety, fatigue, depression, ADHD, or lack of support. For therapist KC Davis, the birth of her second child triggered a stress-mess cycle. The more behind she felt, the less motivated she was to start. She didn’t fold a single piece of laundry for seven months. One life-changing realization restored her sanity—and the functionality of her home: You don’t work for your home; your home works for you.

In other words, messiness is not a moral failing. A new sense of calm washed over her as she let go of the shame-based messaging that interpreted a pile of dirty laundry as “I can never keep up” and a chaotic kitchen as “I’m a bad mother.” Instead, she looked at unwashed clothes and thought, “I am alive,” and at stacks of dishes and thought, “I cooked my family dinner three nights in a row.”

Building on this foundation of self-compassion, KC devised the powerful practical approach that has exploded in popularity through her TikTok account, @domesticblisters. The secret is to simplify your to-do list and to find creative workarounds that accommodate your limited time and energy. In this book, you’ll learn exactly how to customize your cleaning strategy and rebuild your relationship with your home, including:

-How to see chores as kindnesses to your future self, not as a reflection of your worth
-How to start by setting priorities
-How to stagger tasks so you won’t procrastinate
-How to clean in quick bursts within your existing daily routine
-How to use creative shortcuts to transform a room from messy to functional

With KC’s help, your home will feel like a sanctuary again. It will become a place to rest, even when things aren’t finished. You will move with ease, and peace and calm will edge out guilt, self-criticism, and endless checklists. They have no place here.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781668002841
Publisher: S&S/Simon Element
Publication date: 04/26/2022
Pages: 160
Sales rank: 5,765
Product dimensions: 5.00(w) x 7.00(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

KC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, and speaker. She is the creator of the mental health platform Struggle Care, where she shares a revolutionary approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life. KC began her mental health journey at sixteen, when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober, she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.

Table of Contents

How to read this book viii

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 Care tasks are morally neutral 10

Chapter 2 Kindness to future you 12

Chapter 3 For all the self-help rejects 14

Chapter 4 Gentle skill building: the five things tidying method 19

Chapter 5 Gentle self-talk: mess has no inherent meaning 25

Chapter 6 Care tasks are functional 29

Chapter 7 Gentle self-talk: find the compassionate observer 34

Chapter 8 Organized is not the same as tidy 37

Chapter 9 Susie with depression 41

Chapter 10 Gentle skill building: kick-starting motivation 43

Chapter 11 Care tasks are cyclical 50

Chapter 12 Gentle skill building: setting functional priorities 53

Chapter 13 Women and care tasks 56

Chapter 14 Gentle skill building: laundry 57

Chapter 15 You can't save the rain forest if you're depressed 65

Chapter 16 Drop the plastic balls 67

Chapter 17 Gentle skill building: doing the dishes 72

Chapter 18 When you don't have kids 76

Chapter 19 When it's hard to shower 77

Chapter 20 Caring for your body when you hate it 84

Chapter 21 Gentle self-talk: "i am allowed to be human" 86

Chapter 22 Good enough is perfect 88

Chapter 23 Gentle skill building: changing bedsheets 90

Chapter 24 Rest is a right, not a reward 91

Chapter 25 Division of labor: the rest should be fair 96

Chapter 26 Gentle skill building: bathrooms 104

Chapter 27 Gentle skill building: a system for keeping your car clean 106

Chapter 28 When your body doesn't cooperate 107

Chapter 29 Contributing is morally neutral 109

Chapter 30 Cleaning and parental trauma 111

Chapter 31 Critical family members 115

Chapter 32 Rhythms over routines 117

Chapter 33 Gentle skill building: maintaining a space 122

Chapter 34 My favorite ritual: closing duties 128

Chapter 35 Skill deficit versus support deficit 131

Chapter 36 Outsourcing care tasks is morally neutral 133

Chapter 37 Exercise sucks 136

Chapter 38 Your weight is morally neutral 138

Chapter 39 Food is morally neutral 140

Chapter 40 Getting back into rhythm 142

Chapter 41 You deserve a beautiful sunday 143

Acknowledgments 145

Appendix 1 147

Appendix 2 149

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