Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself

by Amy Ahlers, Christine Arylo

Overview

Now you can stop your self-defeating thoughts and start loving yourself and feeling more confident using bestselling authors Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers’s seven-step method to shutting down your inner mean girl.

Most of us quickly recognize when others bully or disrespect us, but it’s harder to discern when we do it to ourselves. We all have the voice that whispers in our ears that we are not good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, or deserving of all we desire. Well, that voice now has a name—ladies, meet your Inner Mean Girl, the judgmental, critical, and belittling inner bully that almost every woman hears running through her mind on a daily basis, creating a constant mindset of anxiety, insecurity, and stress.

But there is way to hush this toxic voice. Reform Your Inner Mean Girl introduces a universal seven-step program that helps women transform their relationships with themselves from self-sabotage to self-love and self-confidence. With a mix of play, humor, creativity, and self-inquiry, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl transforms a woman’s self-bullying thoughts, emotions, actions, and feelings, and helps her get in touch with her most powerful voice—her Inner Wisdom. By quieting our inner critics, we become aware of the hold that societal pressures have on us and recognize all the wonderful traits we do possess, leaving us feeling strong, empowered, and ready to take on the world!

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781582705101
Publisher:	Atria Books/Beyond Words
Publication date:	11/05/2019
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	304
Sales rank:	234,722
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Amy Ahlers, the Wake-Up Call Coach and bestselling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves, is on a mission to wake you up to the sacred in your everyday life. After receiving two BA degrees and years of being a top-producing sales executive, she discovered the world of coaching in 2000 and never looked back. She is an international certified success coach, the CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching, cofounder of Visionary Ignition Switch with Lissa Rankin, and cofounder of Find Your Calling with Lissa Rankin and Martha Beck. Amy has been a featured expert for ABC, FOX, CBS, The Washington Post, and Huffington Post. Her newest passion is supporting moms to embrace the messiness and magic of motherhood on her celebrated podcast, MamaTruthShow.com and in the MamaTruthCircle.com. Visit and read more about Amy online at WakeUpCallCoach.com and get your free Wake Up Your Inner Wisdom Kit.

Christine Arylo combines her twenty years of corporate and entrepreneurial experience with more than twenty years of wisdom study in feminine power, yogic science, and human consciousness to guide others to lead their lives, businesses, and relationships in a different way—professionally successful, internally empowered, and personally sustainable and satisfying.More than 35,000 people on six continents have participated in her transformational programs and workshops. She is the host of the popular Feminine Power Time podcast. Her teachings have been featured at TedX, on CBS, NBC, and FOX, as well as on Thrive, Huffington Post, and more. She currently lives on an island near Seattle. Learn more about Christine at ChristineArylo.com and her Feminine Power Time Podcast at FemininePowerPodcast.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction ix

The Self-Bullying Epidemic xxi

Part I Meet Your Inner Mean Girl

Step 1 Reveal Your Type of Inner Mean Girl 3

Step 2 Expose Your Inner Mean Girls Tricks and Triggers 51

Step 3 Discover What Motivates Your Inner Mean Girl 87

Inspired: Action: Bring Your Inner Mean Girl to Life-Make Your Inner Mean Girl Expose 111

Part II Meet Your Inner Wisdom

Step 4 Turn Up the Volume on Your Inner Wisdom 119

Step 5 Make Your Inner Wisdom Your Most Trusted Ally 145

Inspired: Action: Create a Sacred Self-Love Altar-Claim Sacred Space for Yourself 169

Part III Make Shift Happen

Step 6 Give Up Self-Bullying for Good 175

Step 7 Assign Your Inner Mean Girl Her New Job 199

Inspired Action: Put Your Inner Mean Girl and Inner Wisdom to Work for You-Commit to a Breakthrough 229

Conclusion: An Invitation to Join the Self-Love Revolution 237

Acknowledgments 241

The Inner Mean Girl Hall of Fame 243

Superpower Toolshed: Instant Inner Mean Girl Deactivators and Inner Wisdom Strengtheners 252

Notes 262

About the Authors 264

Editorial Reviews

"Read this book and change your life. It will explain who your Inner Mean Girl is, why she acts like she does, and how tot ransform her into a self-compassionate inner guide."

Kristin Neff

I’ve noticed remarkable changes in the self-esteem and productivity of my friends who have gone through the Inner Mean Girl Reform School™ program. Christine and Amy are an unmatchable team when it comes to teaching women how to stop being so hard on themselves...I love that they’ve figured out how to take that girl inside who compares, criticizes, and berates us and reform her into our best cheerleader.

Kristine Carlson

Every time the voice of your Inner Critic starts prattling away, it activates the amygdala to trigger stress responses in your body, which turn off your body’s natural self-repair mechanisms. This book will not only help you feel happier when you learn to combat your inner demons and breathe life into your inner wisdom; it’s also literally medicine for the body, mind, and soul.

Lissa Rankin

Today, women are unhappier than ever, and we need new tools to deal with our overwhelm and our overly critical minds. Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers have developed a transformational process that offers women important keys to greater happiness. This is deep work that is effective and accessible.

Marci Shimoff

If you have an internal ‘mean girl’ who has you feeling down about your situation, your past, your future, and your chance for happiness, Amy Ahlers and Christine Arylo are just the kind of people who can pull you back up. Their kind, positive, playful guidance will gently walk you from self-torment to self-confidence. Use this book as a coach, a comforter, a BFF, and a path to a more joyful life.

Martha Beck

"Amy and Christine are without a doubt the real deal when it comes to helping women to break free of the self-sabotaging voice of the inner critic. They are masterful!"

Alexis Neely

Amy Ahlers and Christine Arylo have created a significant paradigm shift with their Inner Mean Girl work. They are changing the way people relate to their Inner Critics, and people think and act more powerfully as a result...I can heartily recommend their work and have witnessed the resulting transformations firsthand.

Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy SARK

There’s nothing that holds us back more than the negative voices in our head, these are the voices of fear that stop us from living and loving fearlessly. Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers’ deep, provocative and fun Inner Mean Girl transformation process gives women the gift of an accessible, light-hearted experience that shows them exactly how to wrangle their Inner Mean Girls into submission. It gets my fearless stamp of approval!

Rhonda Britten

"This book offers every woman a tremendous gift of freedom from self-judgment and unrealistic expectations, so she can be free to express her true self, live her heartfelt dreams, and be empowered to make them come true!"

Christine Hassler

"The Inner Mean Girl work is essential to the development of the feminine psyche. many books have been written about how to navigate the inner dialogue of women, so why are we still so hard on ourselves? This book hold the key to unlock that mystery. I have witnessed thousands of women's lives transformed as a result."

Shiloh Sophia

"The kind, positive, playful guidance will gently walk you from self-torment to self-confidence." ---Martha Beck, New York Times bestselling author

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