The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend: Advice on Queer Dating, Love, and Friendship

The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend: Advice on Queer Dating, Love, and Friendship


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This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook.

Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas.

In The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, advice columnist Maddy Court (a.k.a. Xena Worrier Princess) answers anonymous queries from lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders.

Illustrated by comics artist Kelsey Wroten and based on Court's viral zine of the same name, this book features never-before-published letters and responses about first loves, heartbreak, coming out, and queer friendship—all answered with the warmth and honesty of the gay big sister you wish you had.

• BY QUEERS, FOR QUEERS: This book was written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders. The questions reflect real experiences that aren't often represented in the media, and the answers offer an important reminder that loving ourselves takes patience, effort, and the support of our friends and communities.
• EXCITING DEBUT AUTHOR: In 2018, Maddy Court made the leap from creating niche lesbian memes on Instagram to writing and distributing a series of zines. Never preachy or dismissive, Court offers advice that is sympathetic and straightforward—it's equal parts refreshing vulnerability and remarkable wisdom.
• GORGEOUS ILLUSTRATION: Kelsey Wroten's art brings the letters to life, immersing the reader in all the joys and disappointments of the contributors who wrote in from all over the world. In addition to the traditional illustrations, each chapter features a paneled mini-comic that speaks to the different themes.
• AMAZING GUEST EXPERTS: Because one queer cannot possible hold all the answers, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend also includes advice from an incredible roster of guest experts. Author and comedian Samantha Irby; musicians JD Samson and Ellen Kempner; and writers and activists Tyler Ford, Kalyn Heffernan, Lola Pellegrino, and Mey Rude all tackle questions on long-distance breakups, jealousy, love triangles, making friends, and more.

Perfect for:

• Lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders with questions about dating, friendship, and life
• Fans of the Ex-Girlfriend zine series and followers of @Xenaworrierprincess
• Fans of Kelsey Wroten's graphic novels and art

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781797201825
Publisher: Chronicle Books LLC
Publication date: 05/18/2021
Pages: 168
Sales rank: 210,055
Product dimensions: 6.10(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.85(d)

About the Author

Maddy Court is a writer and gardener from Appleton, Wisconsin. She has a pit bull named Louis and a closet full of warm weather denim. This is her first book.

Kelsey Wroten is an illustrator and comics artist living in Brooklyn, New York. In her downtime, she enjoys pop-punk, romance novels, and hanging out with her pet ball python, Jules. She is the author of the graphic novel Cannonball.

Table of Contents

Introduction 8

Chapter 1 Firsts & Thirsts 12

Crushes & First Dates

Chapter 2 The Webs We Weave 36

Relationships & Dating

Chapter 3 The Universe Needs to Apologize 60


Chapter 4 Support Systems 82

Friendship & Queer Community

Chapter 5 Letting Yourself Be Known 110

Coming Out & Families of Origin

Chapter 6 There Are No Shortcuts 128

Tough Conversations

Guest Expert Bios 158

Resources 164

Acknowledgments 166

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